Any advice?

SummerMoon · February 2009

Alright everyone, I need some help here. So, my boyfriend lives with my mom and I right now. Sounds crazy, I know. But anyways...why is he living with us you may be wondering? Well long story, short story...he has issues with his parents. His dad is very much an alcoholic, and his mom left a few months back to god knows where, and she had drug problems. He stayed with us for about 1 1/2 months because his dad was arguing with him a lot, and he was literally scared of what he might do. After that he was back and forth and my mom finally had it out with his dad and he is officially living with us now, with permission from his dad believe it or not. Sometimes he gets in these really depressed moods. I know he wants someone to talk to. He tries talking to me a lot. The only thing is, I feel horrible, because I have no idea what I can say to him. I mean...do I try to comfort him? Or do I just let him get everything out? It's confusing honestly...I know I can't relate to him, so there's really nothing I find I can say. Any advice? If I can help him, that's all I want.

3Eagles · February 2009

aww. Thats really sad. One of my friends has a slightly different problem but they are a lot alike. I have found that my friend just wants me to be there for him. He needs to talk and get it off his chest. I would ask your boyfriend if he wants to talk about it just have you listen to him. Everyone needs to talk about their problems and let off some steam. Be ready to give him a hug and keep just letting him know that you are there for him no matter what. Guys don't always need us to be dependent on them. They also like it when they can lean on our shoulders too and one way we can do that is by listening and making them feel better. I hope this helped somewhat. Good luck. I'm praying for you and your boy.

SummerMoon · February 2009

Trisscar wrote:

aww. Thats really sad. One of my friends has a slightly different problem but they are a lot alike. I have found that my friend just wants me to be there for him. He needs to talk and get it off his chest. I would ask your boyfriend if he wants to talk about it just have you listen to him. Everyone needs to talk about their problems and let off some steam. Be ready to give him a hug and keep just letting him know that you are there for him no matter what. Guys don't always need us to be dependent on them. They also like it when they can lean on our shoulders too and one way we can do that is by listening and making them feel better. I hope this helped somewhat. Good luck. I'm praying for you and your boy.

Well that makes me feel a bit better about this

Thank-you for your input

Pepper97 · February 2009

I would let him have a shoulder to cry on, but don't get too involved. Let him talk if he wants to and if not, come to him. He might not feel like coming to you, but it will overall help him if you show you care. Does that make sense?

SummerMoon · February 2009

Pepper97 wrote:

I would let him have a shoulder to cry on, but don't get too involved. Let him talk if he wants to and if not, come to him. He might not feel like coming to you, but it will overall help him if you show you care. Does that make sense?

Makes plenty of sense

Thanks pepper ^_^

BuffyBoarding · February 2009

Be very very greatful that he is willing to talk to you. Obviously he really trusts you with everything, and there are alot of people out there who need someone to talk to and wont open up to anyone. I've tried to help people and its really difficult when you need them to open up but they aren't comfortable doing it. I really wish that with a couple of people i was in the same position you are. I encourage that you listen to him and just make sure he knows that you'll be there for him when he needs you.

SummerMoon · February 2009

Thanks Buffy

NixII · February 2009

what is there to say to someone with this problem? nothing really. like everyone else has said. let him talk to you. if you tell him you're sorry about it, he'll most likely get mad because that's not what people want to hear. don't say it's okay because obviously it's not. so my advice is to tell him you're there if he wants to talk. and when he decides to open up just let him talk. :]

SummerMoon · February 2009

just to let ya'll know, we talked ^_^ I feel much closer to him now, and I have a feeling he feels better

and now he's playing vp xD

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