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• Horsegirl210

  July 2012 70.119.54.162

  Im sorry.
• MissyMae95

  July 2012 98.142.206.203

  Its fine pumpkin. Message me?

  
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• Horsegirl210

  July 2012 70.119.54.162

  Kk
• Cherokeezbaby

  July 2012 24.126.241.50

  I am sorry to hear that! I understand some of what you are going through. My horse show is in August and my dad will not even come. He has not been to ANY of them EVER! He has not even called me in 8 months at least. I honestly stopped counting.

  
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• MissyMae95

  July 2012 98.142.206.203

  Cherokeezbaby wrote:

  I am sorry to hear that! I understand some of what you are going through. My horse show is in August and my dad will not even come. He has not been to ANY of them EVER! He has not even called me in 8 months at least. I honestly stopped counting.

  <br><br>It really sucks like i want him to be there for support but he wont even consider just because i dont like his wife and dont want her to be there. Its like he should still go to support me atleast.

  
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• ^Oriyana^

  July 2012 99.250.217.215

  I don't want to sound harsh or critical, that's not my intention, I just want to try to point out a different way to look at it. Sometimes trying to see things from the other person's point of view can change our own view on somethings.<br><br>Try to look at it from your Dad's side too, perhaps he feels like you're not supporting him in his decision in a wife, or that you're not making an effort in trying to accept his wife? I'm not saying that your feelings aren't valid, but sometimes we have to make small sacrifices in order to keep the things that are important to us around. Maybe call your dad or invite him to lunch (I don't know how close he is or if that's feasible) and start by apologizing for not wanting to include his wife (sometimes swallowing your pride and saying you're sorry can make a world of difference). Have you talked to him about what makes you not like his wife? Have you sat down and really thought about those reasons yourself? Are they valid reasons, or a snap judgment? Maybe try talking to your dad about it? If it's things she does or says to you, maybe he could talk to her about it. Perhaps you could suggest to him that it's important that just he comes to this first show, and maybe his wife could join him for another one? It really may just boil down to what is more important to you, having him there, or not having her there? <br><br>Things in the world recently sort of bring back to me that we all have such a short time here, and you never know when things may drastically change. It's important not to let small things keep us from spending time with the people we love, because you really don't know how much there is. Let people know how you feel about them while you can <br><br>Also, I'm sorry about the cow, but I don't really have a solution for that one Good luck with whichever way you decide to go.

  
• Animalsaremything

  July 2012 72.94.114.247

  I am sorry! I feel bad for you! <br> I hope everything works out for you!

  
• Cherokeezbaby

  July 2012 24.126.241.50

  Missy_mae95 wrote:

  Cherokeezbaby wrote:

  I am sorry to hear that! I understand some of what you are going through. My horse show is in August and my dad will not even come. He has not been to ANY of them EVER! He has not even called me in 8 months at least. I honestly stopped counting.

  <br><br>It really sucks like i want him to be there for support but he wont even consider just because i dont like his wife and dont want her to be there. Its like he should still go to support me atleast.

  <br>You can PM me anytime to talk, if you want. I have been through a lot of the stuff you have, and can give you some ways to handle it. I lost my cow a few years back and still have not brought myself to showing another.

  
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• Alabama

  July 2012 98.83.46.133

  I'm kinda with Ori on this. Relationships can be very touchy and sometimes, you have to make allowances for the people who have been brought into your life by someone else, though you may not like them. <br><br>My oldest went through something similar at her high school graduation. Her step mother had a problem with me being there at graduation and made a statement that they wouldn't attend if I did. I had no problem sharing graduation with them, so the decision was theirs whether or not to be mature and act civilly towards each other for our daughter's benefit and attend, or not to. His wife couldn't accept my being there and my daughter's dad decided that if his wife wasn't comfortable, he wouldn't go. It was more important to them to avoid me than it was to attend graduation. <br><br>In this case, my daughter didn't ask him to choose between the two most important women in his life, his wife did. It still hurt my daughter, but she came to understand that her dad still loved her and would be there for her if she truly needed him, but graduation wasn't a "need" so much as an important celebration. If it had truly been a "need", such as if she was in the hospital or having a crisis, nothing and no one would have kept him away. That her life was changing and in less than a year, she would start her life separate from her dad, while his wife would hopefully be there for years to come. It was more important that he respect his wife than to make his wife feel badly by not understanding and supporting her. My daughter would survive him not attending graduation, but the marriage might not if he did. That no matter what he did, my daughter would still love him and he would still love her. To be honest, I feel for him that his wife is so insecure to see me as so big a threat that she couldn't allow him to attend his daughter's graduation, but that's his problem, not mine and not my daughter's. Hopefully, she gets more secure before and if our daughter gets married and he has to walk her down the aisle, as I won't be missing that either.<br><br>By excluding his wife, you are forcing your dad to make a choice of who he loves most. That isn't fair to him. His love for you can't be compared to the love he has for his wife, they are two very different types of love. But if it's so important that you exclude someone else he loves, perhaps he feels that you don't really need his support. If you really needed him, it would be his presence that was most important, not whether or not his wife was there.<br><br>So the your decision comes down to, like Ori said, which is more important to you, excluding her or including your dad? How would you feel if someone you loved said they wanted to you come to an event, but you weren't welcome if you were going to bring someone who was also a central focus in your life?<br><br>Hope you get to feeling better and hope things work out for you. Talk to your dad about the situation between his wife and you.

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• MissyMae95

  July 2012 98.142.206.203

  Thank you guys. Ori i do have reasons to not like her, And when me and my dad talk about what she has said to me he sides with her about most of the things. I know my Grandparents and aunts and uncles are coming and hopefully my cousins so it should help. And its not my first horse show its me 3rd or 4th year in 4-H and i've been showing since i was little, but i would still like him there, i've really been thinking about it, but another reason i dont want his wife to go is because my mom and her dont like eachother. And my mom isnt talking to my dad anymore either because he sided with her and fought against my mom. And because they try to bribe me to move out with them.

  
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